Creating Care Plans When You’re Caught in the Middle: A Sandwich Generation Survival Guide

Plan A, Plan B or Plan C. Three possible strategies.

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If you’re simultaneously raising kids and caring for aging parents, welcome to the sandwich generation. You’re juggling soccer schedules, school projects, prescriptions, and doctor appointments — often in the same week. It’s exhausting. It’s rewarding. It’s overwhelming. And it’s exactly why you need a care plan.

Think of a care plan as a roadmap that helps you prepare, communicate, and organize support across generations. It won’t eliminate every challenge, but it will give you a sense of control — and that’s worth everything.

Step 1: Start the Conversation

Initiating discussions about care can be uncomfortable. But waiting until a crisis hits makes everything harder.

With Aging Parents:

  • Ask about their wishes: Where do they want to live if care is needed? Who do they trust to make decisions?

  • Gather information on their medications, providers, insurance, and financial accounts.

  • Discuss legal documents like powers of attorney, living wills, and advanced directives.

With Kids (especially teens):

  • Be open about your caregiving responsibilities so they understand the family dynamic.

  • Involve them in small, age-appropriate ways — it teaches empathy and builds trust.

Step 2: Get It in Writing

A care plan doesn’t have to be fancy. A shared Google Doc or printed binder works just fine. Include:

  • Emergency contacts

  • Medical history and current medications

  • Daily routines and preferences

  • Legal and financial documents

  • Responsibilities by person (even if that’s mostly you — for now)

Step 3: Build Your Support Squad

This isn’t a solo mission. Start small by asking for help with things like:

  • Transportation

  • Grocery runs

  • Sitting with a parent while you run errands

  • Emotional check-ins for you

Whether it’s a sibling, spouse, neighbor, or care manager — let people help.

Step 4: Revisit and Adjust

Care needs change. So should the plan. Review it every few months or when there’s a major life change. And make sure everyone involved knows where to find the most recent version.

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Remember:
Creating a care plan won’t solve everything. But it gives you clarity, helps others step in, and — most importantly — protects the well-being of everyone, including you.

You’re not just holding it all together — you’re building a legacy of care. And that’s something to be proud of.

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